MOTHER-PART NINE
DD and I went to see Mother again today. She is about like she was Thursday.
Mother did look at me as if she knew me, did not smile or offer to say anything. She did say something to DD, but not in a conversational way.
One of the restorative feeding aids is really making me ill –saying that Mother needs to eat her meal before she eats dessert. Who cares just so she eats something! This same aid says Mother needs to eat before she has any coffee. Also, saying Mother can and needs to feed herself, that when gets tired or needs help, then she will help her. Right! sometimes her hand trembles so that the food will not stay on the spoon. She almost spilled ice water on herself today. I know and everyone that really knows Mother, knows she would not let anybody feed her if she felt able to do so.
Another thing that really made me very ill. If an item is not yours, do not steal it. Someone had given Mother the cutest little bouquet in a tiny tiny vase, today the vase was gone and the flowers were in a tall vase. Once before on another hall someone stole a new bouquet and left the vase and stole a pot plant. I guess (know) I have more important issues than someone stealing her flowers.
My brother has called her doctor to see if some of her food related orders can be changed. We have known her longer, but remember her habits for at least 40 plus years, but according to some of the staff that have known her less than a year, we know nothing.
I do wish that I could afford at least 16 hour a day private care for her if not 24. The minimum rate that I know of is $10. per hour.
I asked on the 30th of November that a CT scan be done. Her doctor ordered it but to my knowledge the appointment has not been made. I asked that I be notified so that I can give Mother a little comfort by hopefully her seeing a face that she can trust.
Thanks readers for being my sounding board tonite.
Til Next Time