WHAT IS HAPPENING????
If anyone knows or has thoughts on this situation, please tell me.
DD and I went to see Mother yesterday.
DD had not been able to go in about a month. She has 8 children and 7 of them are 13 and under, with the baby being 9 months. 4 of the children are in scouts and 3 of them are practicing for the Christmas program at church. In other words her plate is a little full, but she had been going to see Mother at least once a week until her schedule got so busy and times I would go she just could not.
Anyway, when we got to the facility, Mother was being taken to the dining room. We stopped to talk with her and she just looked at us (more like thru us as if we were not even there) I asked several times if she could hear us and she finally barely nodded a yes. As we were walking away to go hang her clothes, the nurse asked her something and she readily gave an answer.
After we hung her clothes, We went to the dining room and I asked her why was she treating us this way? Do you not want to see us? No answer. Can you hear me? A nod yes. My daughter and I left, we were very upset. I figured I needed time to try to figure out what was happening and why the attitude of “I don’t care if you are here or not”. DD was almost to the point of tears. We went to a resturant close by and had lunch and discussed the situation. Not that we had an answer.
After our lunch, we went back to see Mother and I tried to get Mother to talk to us . I asked her if she wanted us to come or stay away, that she was acting like she did not want to see us. She said “you know” and that is all that she would say. While I was talking with her she would look around the room as if she did not want to hear me (like a child does when being asked direct ?? that they do not want to answer).
I had not been this past week, like I normally go. I usually go 4 or 5 times, Monday thru Friday, but I only went on Wednesday due to my work schedule and the weather. It takes me about 45 minutes one way to get to the facility.
Mother also has a granddaughter that lives maybe 20 miles away, that to my knowledge has not been to see Mother since the latter part of March when she was in the hospital before being placed in the facility. A grandson that lives in Charleston, SC (maybe 4 hours away) has only been once. My brother’s widow’s son has been several times.
Mother’s mind is still sharp. She may be slow to remember details, but not too slow to know who has been faithful to visit her when at all possible.
My brother visits almost every week-end and said that Mother was not very talkative, but did not ignore him.
Is she mad because I did not visit as much and DD could not visit? She has asked about DD and I would tell her why she was not with me. What gives here??????????
Til Next Time